Saturday, May 27, 2006
Isn’t it Easier to just Avoid Speaking?
The more you avoid what is scary, the scarier you allow it to become. Start small and speak up more frequently at a regular meeting. Make it a goal to speak early and only once in an important meeting. Practice makes it easier. Like other frightening things you’ve done, it will become familiar.
Expect to always have normal jitters and normal fears before speaking. These don’t go away. Enjoy the freedom of not allowing your fears to become the boundaries of your life.
If you keep saying to yourself and others,
“I don’t speak well. I’m really bad. I hate to do it”
you will keep yourself fearful.
Just because you haven’t felt you were successful in the past, or can remember difficult situations, you still can be successful in the future. To Avoid speaking will increase your stress.
Every time you speak in public it will be a little less demanding! So keep practicing.
The more you avoid what is scary, the scarier you allow it to become. Start small and speak up more frequently at a regular meeting. Make it a goal to speak early and only once in an important meeting. Practice makes it easier. Like other frightening things you’ve done, it will become familiar.
Expect to always have normal jitters and normal fears before speaking. These don’t go away. Enjoy the freedom of not allowing your fears to become the boundaries of your life.
If you keep saying to yourself and others,
“I don’t speak well. I’m really bad. I hate to do it”
you will keep yourself fearful.
Just because you haven’t felt you were successful in the past, or can remember difficult situations, you still can be successful in the future. To Avoid speaking will increase your stress.
Every time you speak in public it will be a little less demanding! So keep practicing.
