Friday, August 11, 2006
Myths
1. Everyone is busy watching me be nervous.
- No. Most people are thinking of themselves, thinking how your information will help them personally, thinking about the need to look at emails, thinking about lunch, etc.
2. They are mostly thinking of what others think of them and what they will say next to sound smart!
- They are Number One in their thinking.
Use this to your advantage to capture their interest and attention by starting off with how your information will help them.
3. They see themselves in you and remember when they were nervous.
- Really, they don’t care as long as they receive the information.
1. Everyone is busy watching me be nervous.
- No. Most people are thinking of themselves, thinking how your information will help them personally, thinking about the need to look at emails, thinking about lunch, etc.
2. They are mostly thinking of what others think of them and what they will say next to sound smart!
- They are Number One in their thinking.
Use this to your advantage to capture their interest and attention by starting off with how your information will help them.
3. They see themselves in you and remember when they were nervous.
- Really, they don’t care as long as they receive the information.
Myths
1. Everyone is busy watching me be nervous.
- No. Most people are thinking of themselves, thinking how your information will help them personally, thinking about the need to look at emails, thinking about lunch, etc.
2. They are mostly thinking of what others think of them and what they will say next to sound smart!
- They are Number One in their thinking.
Use this to your advantage to capture their interest and attention by starting off with how your information will help them.
3. They see themselves in you and remember when they were nervous.
- Really, they don’t care as long as they receive the information.
1. Everyone is busy watching me be nervous.
- No. Most people are thinking of themselves, thinking how your information will help them personally, thinking about the need to look at emails, thinking about lunch, etc.
2. They are mostly thinking of what others think of them and what they will say next to sound smart!
- They are Number One in their thinking.
Use this to your advantage to capture their interest and attention by starting off with how your information will help them.
3. They see themselves in you and remember when they were nervous.
- Really, they don’t care as long as they receive the information.
Monday, August 07, 2006
Situations
• With boss or one intimidating person – Read books on difficult people to get scripts and lines to use. Rehearse them with a friend who acts out that undesirable behavior as you rehearse to get used to responding.
• In weekly meetings – ask trusted participants for suggestions and have them coach you. Trust their perception of you more than your own perception of you.
• In larger, special meetings – Get there early and rehearse to the empty hall. Go to similar locations and rehearse imagining the real venue.
• Presenting to large groups – Speak to one or two people at a time and explain your ideas. Speaking naturally is preferred to giving a formal speech. Move your attention to others in different parts of the room.
• Have notes as insurance for when you lose your place. You are prepared, and just need a reminder.
• I’m interrupted – you have notes to find where you left off. You can ask someone to wait until you have finished. Rehearse this with a friend.
• Practice makes better (perfect is not a realistic speaking goal).
• With boss or one intimidating person – Read books on difficult people to get scripts and lines to use. Rehearse them with a friend who acts out that undesirable behavior as you rehearse to get used to responding.
• In weekly meetings – ask trusted participants for suggestions and have them coach you. Trust their perception of you more than your own perception of you.
• In larger, special meetings – Get there early and rehearse to the empty hall. Go to similar locations and rehearse imagining the real venue.
• Presenting to large groups – Speak to one or two people at a time and explain your ideas. Speaking naturally is preferred to giving a formal speech. Move your attention to others in different parts of the room.
• Have notes as insurance for when you lose your place. You are prepared, and just need a reminder.
• I’m interrupted – you have notes to find where you left off. You can ask someone to wait until you have finished. Rehearse this with a friend.
• Practice makes better (perfect is not a realistic speaking goal).
